Screaming – A Natural Response
Using intentional screaming for a smoother and more connected life.
Why is screaming so awkward or socially not accepted?
We all know how freeing it can be to sing out loud in our car or to go to a concert and scream, elated to see our heroes up on stage. Using our voice like that opens up something and we feel more alive.
When we watch children on a playground they scream and make all sorts of noises because they are alive, excited about being together, the games they play and much more. They let it all out and seemingly have endless energy.
Vocalizing the intensity of their aliveness and joy is one of the most natural physiological responses.
We feel the children’s innocence, freedom and a lightness of being when we observe them playing and expressing themselves and their internal desire.
Screaming is a very natural response to intense emotions and intense sensations in the body.
For example, if something scares us or we get strongly startled we scream.
If we get very frustrated or angry the impulse is to want to scream.
When we deal with high levels of pain – we scream. This brings us some temporary relief by releasing the intensity of the pain sensations.
If screaming is such a natural response, then why not use it for forward internal movement? Why not use it to open, release, free up our lifeforce, our passion and desire? What if screaming could be a key to getting freed up from states like overwhelm, anxiety, negativity in our mind or feeling dull and lethargic?
Why aren’t we using it?
Most of us have been taught how to suppress / repress the natural impulse to scream. When we watch others scream at each other, we see what harm it can do to their relationship or friendship. We hated it when mom, dad or some other relative screamed at us.
We haven’t really been shown how to use screaming intentionally and in a responsible way. Screaming at someone or something, and feeling justified in it, has created so much separation between people and in this world. Holding others or our circumstances responsible for dealing with feelings that we don’t like to feel has become the norm.
But screaming at another person is basically just the ego-self wanting to get heard, wanting to feel better about itself without any care about the other person – an attempt to find some relief. Some people start to turn these bottled-up emotions against themself and states of depression and / or self-loathing are a common result. Either way – it is the opposite of responsibly dealing with the intensity that lives inside of us. Especially the intensity of certain emotions.
Intensity
Our life force is intense, our true care and passion and our deeper desires are intense. These are internal forces that easily evoke a more intense response when they start to open up from within and come to the surface.
The unconditional love and transformational energy, in part, are intense forces that the deepest part of us pulls on. When opening up to these energies, when letting them in, screaming is a very helpful tool to create more space, more of an internal opening.
Screaming can be used in many ways to benefit us. But it is not about walking around screaming out loud, drawing attention to ourselves. Screaming used intentionally, in an environment that supports us in opening up and moving forward in our transformation, and to make space for more of our true capacity to unfold, is the most potent way, in which the natural tool of screaming can support us.
Using a Towel
Scream into a towel. It truly is not about needing to make a lot of noise or who can scream the loudest. You place the towel over the front of your throat and your vocal cords, with a slight pressure on them to protect your voice. Then, from your belly you scream. Using the intensity of the activity of screaming helps us to open up channels in our body, so that our life force can move more freely and pent-up emotions can release.
Who doesn’t want to feel their own passion, their creativity and free up the true qualities that live inside?
Try screaming into a towel in your room. Just you, your desire for internal opening, your desire to move the emotions that have been bottled-up, your determination to interrupt the mind and its thought patterns that have been disturbing you. Focus on opening up to who you truly are, and for those, who have a connection with Spirit – invite Spirit to be with you, guide you and support you.
Use intentional screaming to be preemptive in keeping your emotional body open. This is a form of self-care.
See what can happen.
Stories
Here are a couple of true stories for you. I hope they will be inspiring.
A friend of my wife’s went into a bar with his girlfriend. They had a drink, talked and ordered some food. He saw two men at the bar starting to get quite loud and they started to position themselves as if they were going to fight. My wife’s friend went to the bar and asked the bartender for 3 towels. The bartender didn’t even ask any questions. He then went over to the two men, looked at them and gave them each a towel. This interrupted their “standoff”. He then said “Let’s all scream into our towel. I will also scream into my towel”. The two men were willing to do this and all 3 guys screamed a few times. Our friend saw that the aggressive energy had died down and left. It never came to a fight.
A good friend of mine shared the following with me.
For some background – my friend and I have regular phone calls and we share about our lives and our transformation. At some point he told me that he tends to still get annoyed and frustrated when talking to customer service people, who are not really helping him or able to help him. We talked about screaming to move the frustration. He said that he was going to take on this practice, because he didn’t want to take out his anger on another person.
One day he was back with a customer service agent, who was hard to understand because of his accent, and who simply didn’t understand what my friend needed from him. The frustration surfaced and my friend said to the customer service agent. Please give me a moment. I will go on mute, so I can scream and release my frustration, because I don’t want to take it out on you. Will you please stay on the line I will be right back. The agent agreed to stay on the line. My friend screamed for a little bit, until he could feel the frustration lift. He then went back with the agent and was able to find a way to communicate about what he needed and the issue at hand got resolved.
My friend told me that screaming definitely opened him up and it opened up his mind. He was able to get information from within to help him with his communication and connection to the agent. It was the frustration that was blocking him and all of that lifted after he screamed and let go.